Testimonials

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I was uncertain what to expect or what I would feel when I first signed up to do coaching with you. It has proven to be an amazing experience and I’m only beginning to realize how powerful an effect it will have on my life. It’s been two months since we started, I already feel more grounded in my sexual exploration. It feels like my body and mind are on a journey together to discover my sexuality and desires, rather than feeling my sexuality as totally dissociated from the rest of who I am. I am more at peace with my body, more comfortable looking at myself, more curious about moving and touching my body, expressing myself in a more physical way, being aware of my body rather than living life as a spirit or head dragging along a body.
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I wanted to express deep gratitude for the coach that you have been. I see now that I’ve been waiting to really invest in a coach until I found one that I feel could really handle what I would be bringing them. I knew that the coach would have to be made of some really strong stuff – coming out of a background of extreme, abundant, and unique trauma of a being tortured by a criminally insane parent -I knew a lot of intense stuff would come up that a coach would have to be really solid to know how to handle it. I have gone thru so many therapists because so many people just didn’t have the skills to really grasp the level of trauma (I know have a great therapist in addition to working with you) So, I want to express my deep gratitude to you for being the angel who didn’t turn away from all the stuff that working with me has come with – I literally feel like I am coming back to life again – like I’ve landed on the shore again after feeling like I was trying to keep afloat in a violent sea – You have given me gifts that are priceless and I am deeply touched and bow a huge Namaste to you.
5/5
Destin, I owe you a tremendous debt of gratitude for helping to set me on this path. The people in my life whose lives have changed, often painfully, owe you thanks as well, though you may never receive thanks from them. Their lives have been put into alignment. Cheri is happier than ever with her new life, it’s where she’s meant to be. My married friend is finally able to let go of her decades-long fantasy of me, face her marriage honestly, and build the foundation of a truly fulfilling life. Many others, old and new connections, changing as I follow my heart and move further along my path. And the real magic is yet to come.
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There are many coaching/mentoring approaches which provide clients with the tools and concepts to address the many spokes that comprise the wheel of Life – the problem with a great number of these teaching models is that the clients become trapped in the ideas themselves, and adapt their dreams to the framework, rather than adapting the methodologies to their own inner voice. Destin Gerek approaches his work from the opposite direction – his carefully-structured questions and guidance all revolve around freeing the individual from preconceived notions of the ‘right’ way to break through self-limiting beliefs and energetic blockages. In this way, I found myself able to avoid becoming ‘mastered’ by the process, and instead, was given the confidence and guidance to take control of my own self-actualization and soul values identification journey. When I had done so, Destin was there to provide insight into how to continuously reinforce these “inner knowings” and offer frameworks to build upon my personal revelations. In addition, Destin’s background in such fields as tantric intimacy and eastern bodywork disciplines means that his clients receive a very powerful knowledge base for accessing the manifestational power of the present moment through becoming fully-aware of the deep wisdom that resides in their bodies. His compassion and commitment to service represents the kind of integrity that is required from those who are offering the depth of transformational change that his services can provide to individuals from every walk of life.
5/5
Thank you! You are a magnificent man! Working with you has been incredibly FUCKING motivating. I really appreciate all that you do. (And I don’t mean just for me) This work is really helping me reignite my own creative cauldron. Places long stuck are FINALLY moving!
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I am extremely fortunate and grateful to have been able to experience Destin Gerek’s coaching work, and it has been life-changing. Thanks to his coaching, I have experienced changes in my sexuality, my mindset and my way of being that have been amazing. I’m experiencing a far deeper level of presence, peacefulness and confidence, in my sexual relationship and in my way of living, than I ever knew possible. Moreover, Destin’s coaching has given me the tools to continue to transform my life in ways I want going forward, now I’m truly guiding my life. Destin’s approach is about making changes from the inside-out, based on what works best for the individual client. His work is very personalized and non-judgmental. He acts as a guide, offering me tools and encouraging me along my individual path, instead of some rigid, cookie-cutter program. He’s given me the tools to change how I’m being inside, and that has led to tremendous changes in my life “just happening.” Change feels very natural and fun. Pulling from a wide array of disciplines, Destin offers a very holistic approach. I’ve experienced growth in finding my purpose, subtle energy movement, sexual connection, Tantra practice, cultivating and deepening presence, enhancing my relationship connection with my wife, deepening my self-confidence, and self-expression. I also enrolled in the Orgasmic Mastery course. Thanks to this program, I discovered non-ejaculatory orgasms and male multiple orgasms and expanded my sexuality in ways I couldn’t imagine when I signed up for his course. Thank you, Destin – this work has blown open the doors of my life!
5/5
Thank you for an amazing retreat Destin. And thank you to all the men who so gracefully and authentically showed up, in every moment. Eager to grow, loving, kind, compassionate, helpful, strong, beautiful. Those are the words I would use to describe the men I experienced. I was so blown away at the container that was created during my experience as a demo. I am highly expressive and they stayed grounded and centered and in love which contributed to my comfortability expressing such a wide range of emotion. I thank all the men who participated as it was the collaborative desire for growth that brought out the potency of the connection. And I thank you for answering the call and standing up for truth, authenticity, and deep loving connection. I appreciate your voice being in the world. You inspire me.
5/5
The VIP Full Day Intensive was a truly remarkable adventure of discovery, inner reflection, coaching, pushing limits, feeling my fears and being in my power. Destin is fully committed to coaching me in my journey of understanding and achieving my desires and passions. This day together was a perfect opportunity for delving even deeper into the myriad of complexities known and unknown which are essential parts of the big picture of my life. Destin teaches from his experience of having “been there” himself, from the wealth of training he has taken and from his life lessons of boldly expressing his own passions. He is open, real and honest in expressing both his truth and reflecting what he sees in me. He effectively blends compassionate listening with a call for action The lessons learned will unfold with time as I continue to process the experience, internalize the deeper understandings developed, make changes to my life and address the fears identified. I look forward to implementing a bolder plan for my future and realizing my visions, with this VIP Full Day Intensive as an exceptional and transformative part of the journey. I’ve enjoyed the journey as well, in part due to a perception that we are both similar in so many ways and yet with very different experiences of expressing ourselves in the world. This is a great example of how I could show up differently in the world. I am honored to call you my brother, something I have rarely felt with others. Namaste, Art
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“I felt I made quantum leaps in my awareness, control and not least, enjoyment! I felt the material was/is/will continue to be valuable. I can already tell that as time passes, I will only deepen my appreciation and experience.” – R.S.
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The length of the course (at first intimidating) was perfect. It allowed me time to breathe, speed forward at my own pace and pull back when I didn’t have the time. I never felt as though I was ever off course. – J.M.
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Thank you SO much for investing your time and energy with me. Our time together was priceless. There was so much good stuff that I have to go back and review everything once again, on my own time. I am proud to call you my teacher! – J.S.
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Thank you Destin. I have reached new levels of communication, and pleasure like I’ve never EVER experienced in my life. It has been one of those life changing sorts of things. I want to TREMENDOUSLY thank you and given the opportunity to talk about you and send referrals, consider it done! – G.S.
5/5
I had a revelatory moment yesterday when you stood in the role of my sexuality and it occurred to me how beautiful it is, which I’d never realized before.
– M.G.
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This course has been powerful for me in regards to clearing out personal cobwebs around my sexuality. It’s helped me really see what is there when I focus in on it and the regular practice keeps me really on it rather then being able to check out or avoid it. Thanks Destin!
– J.K.
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This is a FANTASTIC course!! I so encourage everyone to do it now. Worth every cent! It has expanded my love life in so many ways; far, far beyond my expectations. Thank you Destin!! And as for results: my sweetie is LOVING it, and I am feeling my love life just light up and EXPLODE in so many great ways. One of the more empowering courses I have taken, and we are only 1/3rd of the way done!” I’ve always considered myself to be an ‘advanced’ lover and have even explored Taoist sexual practices and energetics for years already. Even having explored these realms before I’m getting so much out of this course! I am so enjoying the exploration- it’s fun, entertaining and empowering; and since I started there ABSOLUTELY has been an enhancement and upgrade in my life! From A+ to A+++. . .
– T.G.
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A trusted friend had suggested Destin could help me through my struggle with sexual stamina and performance, and in the process build up my self-confidence. My relationship with my wife, Eve, had stagnated. We were on the verge of divorce.


Now, six months later, did I get what I was looking for? In short: Yes, and my sexual “performance” was only the starting place on my path to finding the passion and purpose I’d been missing my entire life, despite being “successful” on paper. I had met all the criteria society set for having a fulfilling life, yet I remained unhappy.

Here’s some of how my journey with Destin unfolded:

To begin to address the issues I came to him with, I explored what Destin calls “Sexual Self- Mastery.” I learned about sound, breath, movement and visualization to gain both greater control and more pleasure.  I  learned through experience that my pleasure is not dependent on a partner, that I wasn’t bound by another’s participation or lack thereof. It wasn’t all about my wife and our haphazard sex life. My sexual power shifted to come from ME. I had been frustrated by her ‘control’, as I perceived it, and the lack of sex we were having.  I was in a mindset of sexual scarcity.  Meanwhile, my wife was triggered by my expectations which seemed to trigger her into relating to me as a predator. 

 

The situation I found myself in was challenging, to say the least, and drawing my wife into the process was pivotal for both of us.


Under Destin’s guidance, I made a bucket list of 100 dreams, fantasies, experiences, and adventures that I want to experience in my life.  The longest list was the ‘sexual adventures.’ This brought my wife into the process. In conversation with her about my list, it became clear that we both craved sexual adventure, a topic long-suppressed in our relationship.

 

The next few months brought incredible changes. First, in Costa Rica, Destin and I started to cross things off the list of 100. We had epic outdoor adventures such as rappelling down waterfalls, rock climbing, and cliff jumping.  Then we brought my wife into the process, and our relationship was cracked wide open, into both beauty and shadow.  I was asked to step into uncomfortable conversations that I didn’t realize were going to be uncomfortable. I did not see how repressed I was. Eve was challenged to do the same, to speak her truth and acknowledge the trauma she carried and how it was affecting our relationship.

Brought to this edge, I was asked, was I fully in this relationship? Or when shit hit the fan was I going to be out of there?

With some hesitancy, I committed to being all in on the relationship, at least until the end of our work together, recognizing that if nothing changed, or I felt the same ambivalence,  then at least I would have tried.  Then getting out would be done with awareness and understanding. 


With Destin’s guidance, Eve and I began talking about our relationship much more intimately, making sexploration a commitment, and recognizing that all of our respective travels had created so much of the disconnect that brought us into this work in the first place.  


Following our time in Costa Rica, I came to San Diego to work with Destin and a team of colleagues he had arranged for me. I released stories and ‘energies’ that don’t belong to me or aren’t for my highest good. I released the voices of my Dad, my ex-wife, Eve, and all my stories of inadequacy, abandonment, and the need to be needed.  I was led to rewrite the story and affirm who I am NOW.  This work was further grounded in our coaching work together with the addition of Destin’s partner, Elie, who would become an integral part of our work.


In an unexpected turn of events, I ended up in Toronto for 5 weeks supporting my daughters as they went through the final days of their mother’s illness, her passing and funeral.   I was aware of two things happening through this event: Firstly, that life is too short to get caught up in anger and frustration, in not living fully in what is important to me, and not giving a fuck whether anyone likes it or not.  This is my life. Secondly, I became aware of how I have held frustrations and anger in my body, and how the body speaks to me when I’m angry or frustrated, signaling to me that something needs to be spoken.  I saw this clearly while meeting with my family and people from my past at the funeral.  I realized that I had changed.  I was integrating all our work into becoming present to who I am, and not taking anything personally.   I was feeling in my body my reactions and emotions which inform my actions and behavior, I was learning to listen and not shut down. 

Eve then traveled to San Diego herself and began her own work with Destin, Elie, and their colleagues. She was immediately affected by the process, releasing traumas, stories and coming into ownership of her body and pleasure.  She shifted radically, born anew in her power and purpose.   


She brought this energy into our relationship and everything seemed to change between us.  I was able to be in support of her movement for her sake, without the fear of what might happen with this newly found liberation (very different than how it would have been for me in the past).  I was able to freely express my feelings, both the excitement and the fear, to talk without shame or embarrassment.   Eve wanted to be with me, to create intimacy and go further, for me to be part of her new awarenesses. ‘ Eve and I got together on a sexploration date and had a completely different experience, not the same old pattern sex, we changed things up, slowing down and playing. This was so different from all of the pressure that I used to feel.

This led to Eve and I coming together to celebrate the changes that have taken place over the past months.  We were invited into Destin’s home and playroom for a joint session. Working together, Destin and Elie created the space for us to explore what we’d learned in our individual journeys with them. We opened to each other in ways that surpassed all of our prior intimacy, held in the utmost care by this beautiful couple.  After our night at Destin’s home we continued our sexploration practice, and I was able pleasure her in ways I never imagined, with more stamina, confidence and playfulness than ever, over several hours of intense lovemaking. 


My life has changed.  I am a different man today than the man I was six months ago.  I have learned that there’s nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about in my life and what I want to experience sexually and otherwise. I feel good about the man that I am, I strive to live in integrity and when I falter, to clear up the mess when I’m out of integrity.  I am communicating my feelings, bringing up what’s triggering me so to work through it quickly and not hold on to resentment or anger or confusion.  I am becoming clear about my sexual desires and talking to my wife openly about them.  I am learning not to take things personally.  I am the river banks to my woman’s flow, whether it’s stormy rapids or gentle stillness (and everything in between). I’m meeting her feminine with my masculine.  I am getting to know Eve at a deeper intimate level, to feel her essence, especially now as she opens up more to her own pleasure and purpose.  We are exploring each other and talking about inviting another woman into our play.  We’ve opened up conversation about boundaries.  More and more conversation and communication, no shame or embarrassment. 


As I shift from scarcity to abundance, from insecurity and shut down to confidence and communication, from victim to opportunity, I am noticing that the focus of my being is also shifting.  When I’m not caught up in the stories of my inadequacy I have room for more productive and creative pursuits.  The world of possibilities is opening up in front of me.  I am exploring next steps, creatively and sexually.  I want to continue to explore sexual edges, I want to take the best care of my body as I can, and I want to have fun doing what I love – making things, being creative, and exploring my writing, coaching and service initiatives. 

Before we began our work, my life lacked passion, purpose, confidence, commitment, self-trust, and fun. I can now say with certainty that I have all of these. My relationship with my wife is stronger than it has ever been. I will be forever grateful that I had the courage to say “yes” to this adventure with Destin.

— W.D.

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